Have you ever given a thought about how your thoughts can be so irritating?
Do you often think of stopping thinking?
Have you ever told your mind to mind its own business?
Or, have you ever told your brain, that everything does not need brainstorming?
If any of the above answers is a YES, then congratulations, you are eligible to become my personal mentor!
I do possess a trait of communicating with clarity, but when I come across my own conscience, I lack the courage to tell my own mind, “Thank you for these wonderful ideas, thoughts, and suggestions but, I don’t need it all the time. The pace at which you inject your thoughts and the pace of my execution, just doesn’t get along.”
I feel bad in acknowledging this truth, that me and my brain are now in a toxic relationship.
No understanding. No compatibility. The way it is treating me, I can surely tell that IT IS A RED FLAG.
Quite an emotional story, huh? I know.
But, don’t worry, the incident which I mentioned was my past, I have a better relationship now. We tried to sort things up and finally, I changed my partner!
Life is better now.
As they say, every experience teaches you something, I tried to think, what lesson could be learned from this? (Thankfully we are still friends, otherwise thinking would be a nightmare☹)
Well, if I retrospect, there are three takeaways from this chapter of my life. I can share it with you because I feel even you are looking for ways to distract yourself from thinking!
IGNORING IS THE KEY
No matter how much I boast my skills, talents, and achievements, I can’t debate on the topic that my ex-partner (my brain, just in case you have forgotten) is an overachiever. Retention, memorization, visualization, and there are many more but, let it be (I got an ego to pamper).
So, basically, it remembers all the things that I tend to forget. Even the minuscule events of my life have their presence registered there. With all those accumulations of several past experiences, present scenarios, and future expectations, the conversations get very intimidating. When you encounter numerous thoughts at once you tend to get destabilized for frequent intervals in a single day. In addition to that, the timing of those thoughts is so casual that they sneak in, and you don’t even know.
As an experienced individual, I realized that not everything you think should be given equal importance. The ability to sort the vague thoughts and the genuine ones has to be developed.
A few years into a relationship you develop the skill of detecting whether your partner is talking true or just bluffing. The same happened with me, though it was a gradual process, I did observe a pattern of truth, lie, and distraction.
The solution was simple; I did pay attention to the thoughts that held value, but ignored the ones that gave unnecessary stress and anxiety. To pivot was genuinely difficult, but you need to take hard steps to make things simpler.
LIMIT YOUR DEPENDENCY
Over the years, all my tasks encircled around a belief that every chapter of my life will be initiated through planning, structuring, and organizing all my goals. And even with that belief, all these events successfully failed. Reason? Wrong belief.
Mind has strength, an enormous strength and I take pride because I had such a strong partner. But, too many expectations from anyone-anything can ruin its working cycle. I always wondered why all my plans failed, I now realize that my entire dependency was on my mind from initializing, planning, execution, and whatnot which was an exhausting process.
One relationship can’t fetch you everything, probably that’s why we are given the ability to form diverse relationships. I burdened my mind with things which wasn’t its job.
Wanting to go for a run, and planning to go for a run was a fair ask, but expecting it to make me run was exploitation.
How to compensate for the damage? Distribute the work.
Let my mind plan the run, and let my muscles do the execution. Let my mind give me ideas, let me use my hand to pen it down.
When you distribute the work to accurate entities, then there will be valuable results. Relying on your brain, and waiting for the peak motivation is just an excuse you are giving to yourself!
YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL
I was convinced by the fact that my mind is very powerful. But. I didn’t realize that I gradually misinterpreted this phrase and undermined my capability. When you come across someone who holds power, why do we infer that we are weaker?
Though my mind holds power, but I can’t walk wherever it tells me to. I realized this very late, that the game here is not about, who has more power, but who has more control over emotions?
The one that controls, is the master.
Guess what? You can. But the hook is, firstly you need to accept the truth that you can control your mind. The awareness in itself is sufficient to get started.
Well, I guess these were some learnings that I learned from my relationship.
Oh, one more thing, me and my brain have a new relationship, we are relatives now!!
Surprised? Don’t be. Let me show you the connection.
IGNORING IS THE KEY: Ignoring your relatives isn’t a hard job
LIMIT YOUR DEPENDENCY: Better to do your job on your own rather than relying on them.
YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL: Is justification required?? 😊
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